As I said yesterday, I have so much change going on right now, I need as much help as I can get. From my research, here are some other tips I have discovered.
Quite often people don’t roll with change and feel discomforted because they have a deep seated need to be right about everything. The problem is, you will never be right 100% of the time. Aim for success, but if you get something wrong, well, so be it. Learn from the mistake and get on with it. If you don’t allow yourself to make mistakes, how are you going to learn something new or experience a new adventure? Let go of the need to be right and have fun with the possibilities.
Another tip for managing change is trying to control the “Ooh, shiny” reflex. You know the one where you are doing one thing and then get distracted onto something else and maybe even something else and then you suddenly realise that you have three unfinished jobs rather than just one? Well the advice here is to stop running. Face the problem, do the job, fix the issue. Also, make sure that if there are other people involved in the changes that you communicate with them, appreciate them, forgive and love the people in your life. Changing circumstances can cause a lot of relationship stress, so it is important to keep the lines of communication open, even if that communication can sometimes be “Stop doing that” or “For Goodness sake HELP!”.
Back to those decisions again. It is very tempting, if things don’t get started when they should do, or if they don’t turn out quite the way you had hoped, to make excuses. However, the reason the target was not reached is largely down to the decisions you made. If you didn’t start when they should do, then generally it is down to a decision you made. It might be because of an external factor you didn’t factor in, but again, that was a choice for you to go for it without factoring in variables or having a plan B in case. In most cases of long term failure, the problem is the number of excuses that were made. “It didn’t happen because I got ill” or “I was constantly undermined by someone else” are still just excuses. Stop them. Deciding is so much easier.
Change can be depressing. Especially if it feels like it is constant and there is no bedding in period between them. Quite often, all it needs is a shift in the viewpoint. Stop concentrating on the negative (I have 6 rooms to redecorate, I have to declutter the house) and start concentrating on the positive (Our lives won’t be cluttered up with all this junk anymore! We get to move to a gorgeous house with space and storage!) . I am going to count my blessings when I get down in the mouth. This change is going to be AWESOME!
And finally… there needs to be a focus on the small things. Sometimes, a big goal can look just too big. It is a bit like trying to eat an elephant. It is too big a target. Well, fear not. Look at the small things. Eat the elephant, one bite at a time. The biggest thing is made of small things first, so look close and be grateful.
If I can remember HALF of these while I declutter, redecorate and move house… I will be LAUGHING! Hope they help you too.