I was going to write today about the foods which stress the nervous system, as a bit of a follow on from Wednesday’s post. As I drove home through the Nottinghamshire countryside following a job interview though, I was musing about how negative that was for a blog post. I do not like being negative. I want to be more positive.
I was also musing about how my studies are going at the moment, and whether, if I do get a full time role, I would be able to continue with them, as well as keeping the house and garden up to snuff. As I mused about exactly how organised I am going to have to be… I also recalled one of the things mentioned in my Advanced Life Coaching lesson which I completed on Sunday (and got 100% for as well!).
They used a mnemonic in relation to the ideal mindset for a successful coach, but the more I looked at it, the more I liked it as a slogan for living. Using the letters of the word ATTITUDE, gives you all you need to know and work on.
A stands for Action Oriented. Clearly, sitting on your backside and complaining about stuff is not going to get your very far at all. You need to be prepared to get up and do something.
T stands for Taking Responsibility. There is little benefit in pretending that everything is going to be done by someone else, or someone else is to blame for your current predicament, whatever that is. In some cases, it might be a combination of events, or being in the wrong place at the wrong time, but whatever it is, you are a part of it. So you can take responsibility and try and change it. You might only have influence over one part, or one small area, but sorting that small corner out will make you feel better, and it might set the wheels in motion to sort out the whole.
T also stands for Turn Fear into Focus. I don’t know about you, but there are some things that terrify the daylights out of me. Not just heights and spiders. Big things. Like War, Global conflict, what would happen if the whatsit really hit the windmill and life as we know it just stopped, going to the Doctor and them finding something is actually wrong with me. That sort of thing. So instead of dwelling on the fears, I turn it into a focus. One of the reasons I am studying and working hard in the garden and house is because I am teaching myself skills which would be useful in an apocalypse scenario. I can grow plants to feed my family, I can make clothes to keep us warm, I can knit jumpers, I can make curtains, I can make soap, I can make quilts. With Herbalism knowledge I could keep my nearest and dearest healthy without the need for doctors, if they were wiped out and no one could find the stash of antibiotics. I know it might sound like the plot of a Hollywood Blockbuster, or the rantings of a nutter, but whether I could cope in such an emergency made me scared. So I confronted it and have changed my life.
The I in Attitude stands for Imitate Excellence, or “the fake it till you make it” model. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery and in this case, if you want to BE a confident extrovert, then look at one and copy what they do. That is what I did. By nature I am not a confident extrovert, but I knew that being a timorous introvert wasn’t going to get my very far. So, I copied someone. I faked it. Now, when I tell people that I am actually very shy and rather nervous, most people howl with laughter. But it is true.
T stands for Transforming negatives into positives. It is only in the last 4 or 5 years that I have been able to do this. My default setting is to see the negative of everything first and have to dig to see the positive. However, a good friend of mine, over on the website http://www.mortgagefreeinthree.com, put me onto a couple of books which transformed the way I look at things. There are ALWAYS positives, in every situation. Yes, some of them need digging up and a whole heap of polishing, but they are always there. Finding them is one of the most freeing things I have ever managed to do! But it is not easy. None of this stuff is. But it is worth it in the end.
U stands for uncovering hidden talents. This is what I enjoy doing most. When I find something I want to learn how to do, I am often nervous the first time I do it. It might go wrong, I might look like twit attempting something. But then, I think “Hang on… if everyone else manages to do this… then so can I”. My nerves go and then I am off to have a go. I have learnt so much from doing this. I am becoming something of a polymath with all the new skills I have, and I am having so much fun doing it!
D stands for Develop yourself. A lot of people say, after their college or high school finals, ” right, that is the last exam I am ever taking”. I never did. I sort of collect qualifications. I do it because I am interested in the skills, or I need the qualification for my career progression, but I am always, always developing myself. I have discovered the Mindstore visualisation techniques, I am studying naturopathy. All because I want to develop myself.
The final letter, E, is for Expect the Unexpected. Really, I think it is being open to the opportunities that might land on your lap from unexpected directions. It could be a job opportunity, it could be the chance to go sky diving, it could be absolutely anything. If you are not open to new experiences, then you might not find the best thing that has ever happened to you.
So, on that note, it is all about the Attitude. My weekend is going to be about finishing off painting the hallway, cleaning my house up and getting the washing and ironing sorted. All important things to be done, and I can’t wait to get stuck into them! Have a good weekend!